Which Line of Code?
I dont know where within all of our DNA code are the digits that unlock why attraction is so important to us. Heck, appearance is even important to animals. Guess which bird below is the male and which is the female? And yes I kinda think that it is funny that male birds are more attractive than female birds. But the bottom line is, attractive appearance is an undeniable part of our human nature, and wildlife. Ohh and here is an odd detail, researchers studied the eye movements of the female peahens, they found out that the peahens eyes are actually more attracted to the peacocks legs than his feather display. Sometimes you just cant win.
Modest is Hottest!!!?
The "Modest is Hottest" movement started with the very best of intentions. Essentially it has encouraged women to cover their bodies so as to avoid inappropriate attention from men. While the intentions are good, unfortunately for many women (not all) it leaves them with a prevailing feeling of shame.
Certainly an emphasis on attempting to be "sexy" has even greater pitfalls. So we are not advocating for sexy either.
But somewhere we need to find balance in it all. Too often I hear stories about that one girl who developed before everyone else in her grade and how quickly she learned to be ashamed of herself. And then there was that other girl who was a competitive gymnast and it seemed she did not develop any kind of feminine shape until she was in college (does anybody know that girl?). I could write a whole other blog on how ashamed I was of my skinniness and not feeling like a looked like a woman. Someone told me, wait, another woman actually told me, "real women have curves". So was I a woman yet? Maybe I needed "Modest is Hottest" to protect me from the unwanted attention of jealous women. Dang what a crazy way to live! So there I was, already ashamed of my body and now I was supposed to be even more ashamed of it?
"We have to stop the shaming; fat shaming, skinny shaming, body shaming."
One of our daughters is quite modest and we are great with that. So long as she is not in any way ashamed of her body. Our other daughter.... Well lets just say that she is very naive and free spirited, and we love that! So somewhere conversations have to take place with our daughters about all of this. Conversations about your sense of worth not being based on your appearance. Or that the greatest thing that you have to offer this world is not found in your beauty, but in the ways you love God, others, and yourself.
So why are we selling a crop top? Because all girls bodies are different. Take my body, I am 64 inches tall (5'4"). However my inseam is 30 inches. Meaning that I have very long legs. That also means I have a very short torso. So when I wear a crop top you cant see my belly. The over all effect of me wearing a crop top is that it makes me look taller. However if your put that same top on my sister? Lets just say she has a much longer torso than me. When I wear a crop top I wear high waisted pants or sometimes I wear a shirt underneath, but that is my choice. On the other hand, because of my short torso, I cant wear a shirt that plunges at all..... Ohhhhh man.
We are a purpose or vision based apparel company which seeks to help girls build and maintain inner strength so we do hold our selves to a bit of a higher standard. However we do not intend at all to limit our appeal to just those people who are looking for modest apparel. It is our goal to be fashion forward. Because everyones body is different. And like I said modest is relative to the body type of the person who wears the garment, and sometimes even their personality. So some of our shirts are fitted, some are flowwy. Some plunge a bit or are cut high and so on. Someday we hope to offer dresses, and blouses, and sweaters and all sorts of other accessories. Some of the things we are going to sell, if put on the wrong body, may take things a little too far. We will leave it to you to decide what is best for you and your body.
But please, please, dont walk in shame.
Love to all!!!